If it is really anything at all, a sorority is not entirely a flower,
songs, bylaws, standards,
sweatshirts with letters, or a golden pin.
And it is not entirely an institution,
a creed, a legacy, an obligation, or a way of life.
If you are going to insist that it is anything at all,
a sorority is moving in with a sister for the first time
and learning that beautiful people have fat legs,
wear last year's coats, eat popcorn 24 hours a day and
have problems getting dates.
It's long late hours of black coffee, cold pizza,
and other exam snacks, when you still can't remember
Piagets developmental stages or the process of Osmosis.
It's borrowing a skirt from Jennifer,
a blouse from Kelly, shoes from Katie,
and a necklace from Jessica,
wearing it on a date and passing it all off as your own.
It's sitting in the house and listening with all your
helpfulness to a sister because she is lost and
she's lonely and it seems that the whole world just fell into pieces.
It's coming in very late one night and closing the door
to tell someone who has seen you through
the hardest years of college that you're happy now and
you're getting married.
And a sorority is, I suppose, a kind of evaluation.
You grow up inside those elegant halls and perhaps you do
learn more about this life than if you lived somewhere else.
But you also hear that some lecture halls are just watery
echoes and that there are silent rooms for deeper rivers.
You learn that a fraternity guy is sometimes just a lot of talk,
and that skinny arms sometimes hid a great man.
You learn that no matter where you come from,
or who you took there, you still have to find that
one small acre that belongs to you, by yourself.
You learn to wait, because change is slow,
and change isn't always right.
You learn that there is still a lot left to
believe in and a while lot more to hope for.
You learn that love has never been easy,
and that it is a long time in coming.
And if you are very smart or very lucky,
you learn that no matter how big or how messy
the world becomes, whats is precious and
what is permanent is always the same.
And in the very end, a sorority can only be a better way
to stumble down the back steps and walk out the front door